The Crisis Shelter held a ‘Self Talk’ program last night. The program tackled the topic of shame. As a group, they discussed what shame meant to everyone, ideas as to why people feel shame, and personal experiences where they felt shame were shared. They discussed that the opposite of feeling shame is to feel valuable and worthy of love and belonging. There were two activities with the intention of steering away from feeling shame about ourselves by starting to develop positive self-talk. The women wrote letters to themselves. Their strong and feeling positive “self” sent a letter of encouragement to their more vulnerable “self.” Lastly each woman received a mug which she was able to write on with a positive statement of affirmation, as a daily reminder that she is worthy and valuable as a person.
Ways to Appreciate Ourselves and get rid of Shame:
Exercise: Helps lift our mood, reduce stress and anxiety, and gives us energy(walk, bike, etc)
Relax: Make time for yourself to relax. Find what works for you. (meditation, smudging, etc)
Sleep: Makes a huge difference. Routine helps too, getting up and going to bed at the same time every day.
Eating Healthy: Eating lots of fruit and veggies, regularly, and drinking water.
Connecting with others: Gather supports to talk to, who will check in and see how you’re doing.
Taking up a pastime for yourself: something that you enjoy and relaxes you (beading, reading, etc).
Positive Self Talk: Using positive statements can help us develop a new attitude to ourselves and our situation